I have figured it out finally. Its so simple that I feel stupid for not realizing it sooner. My problem was that I didnt use gel! The only way I ever figured this out was because there was a 2 for $5 sale on HE products at target so I bought the mousse & gel together. I randomly decided to use them together & diffuse my hair. Now I finally get the volume i want! My hair still comes out a little frizzy but its nothing compared to before.
Thank you all for your responses and advice! I truly appreciate it (: