I don't think your hair looks proofy, either. I suspect it's the shape that you don't like. It's because it lacks layers. If you get the layers, it will give it a "rounder" shape with some "height" at the top--instead of the triangle look.
Agree with wavymom about the face framing layers. They will also soften the look.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
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