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Old 04-11-2012, 02:15 PM   #9876
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Similar things have happened to me basically all of my academic career. When I got into an exclusive magnet high school in my city, when I got into a 5-week scholars program, when I got a scholarship to college...and many others. Each time there was someone around to basically say that I only got it because of my race when I KNOW that I worked hard to get where I am.

Another time one of my friends was complaining that she didn't into a certain pre-med scholars program because they needed to pick Indians to help with diversity. I still think about her comment all the time. She didn't for one second stop to think that maybe all those "Indians" that were picked for the program were just better applicants than she was. There was no way that the reason they were picked was that they were better, in her opinion. Ughhh

Maybe it's a coping mechanism to deal with their own rejection????
But then that's just an excuse...
Yep, people use the aff action accusation as an excuse for being an underachieving slacker. Whenever confronted with that bullisht, I laughed and kept it moving. See, because no matter what they say to you, you did it (got in, got the scholly, etc.) and they didn't. Ha!

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I don't think they have to be an underachieving slacker - and that's the worst thing about it. In my situation, these people were in my AP classes, with similar grades, and were supposed to be smart enough to "know better." They knew me, they knew my achievements, they knew how hard I studied. Hell, we were all in NHS together and part of student council, and shared several EC activities. That was the part that hurt me - this wasn't some ignorant redneck complaining about black folks achieving - these were my peers since I was seven years old, and all my life, I had considered us equal. And then, at the end of the day, I was just another ni**er. Reality check. Point - society.

But yes, @greenjumper, it's certainly a coping mechanism - but a racist one.

Oh and the WORST part (for me) is that growing up my father would always tell me to watch myself around white people (him being a "token" in his field, to this day) and that they will smile in your face and stab you in the back, and I'd reply, "Daddy, it's not the 50s anymore. My friends aren't like that - we're all just friends, it doesn't matter what color I am, it's 2000." (I had a diverse group of HS friends too) HAH I was so damn wrong! Lesson learned.
I think for a lot of POC that live in a predominately white neighborhood and go to predominately white schools it's a rude awakening. For a lot of blacks in mixed environments too. I know it was for me living in "White Folks City, USA. I graduated college in 2000... but way before that I knew what your Dad said is the truth. My mom basically related similiar sentiments to me all through my teen years...and even my father was clear about my brother and I understanding those things. Not sure why my younger brother got it way faster than I did.

I think for me personally growing up mostly around white people..it took me longer to recognize the full truth of what "our parents" were trying to convey. The funny thing is looking back.. I saw all sorts of evidence to prove their point very early on. I think I just didn't want to believe it but deep inside.. I knew. Because what else can you make of.. "well you're not like them.. you are "different" everytime a racist conversation came up about black folks. And some of the answers I got when I got bold enough to ask.. "Not like them in what way ..how am I different ?" Would make your hair stand on end.

This kind of ish will PUT a chip on your shoulder if it wasn't there before that's for sure..but if you don't control it then you are giving in to your uncivilized animal side..so there ya go.
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