Ew. Spiderlashes, I would be turned off too. And it sucks when you miss things about your last bf, and are reminded, "Wow, so-and-so never would have done that..." I miss many things about my last one too.
Trying not to compare too much but after a certain age, you really do know what you want.
Medium-high density, fine-medium, low-normal porosity, 3b/c, permanent color.
CG, no heat, combs, brushes, parabens.
Fall/Winter HG=Alba Botanica Soft Hold Style Cream.
Spring/Summer HG=MGA Sculpting Gel
Current fave LI=Madre Labs Made by Nature for Baby Conditioner.
Limit oils, butters, glycerin.