Thanks for your input, but that's actually not what I meant at all. I realize I wasn't very clear, but what I meant was that for a lot of people, femininity is very much tied in with their hair and the general principle of how much work and time they put into their appearance. Not always, not for everyone, but for a lot of people. I was wondering if anyone wanted to chime in and express something about their hair and experience of gender that they might not feel comfortable expressing elsewhere on the boards for reasons you've outlined pretty well.
What I meant about my own femininity was just that it's not typical for me to feel that way, and the fact that this is where that side of me comes out is another interesting piece to incorporate into my personal identity matrix. I'm certainly not uncomfortable with it, and DEFINITELY not passing judgment on anyone of any gender who chooses to fuss over their hair a lot. It's just a thing I've noticed.