did a little research and answered my own question! So apparently, I need to avoid humectants.
I think I need to also avoid protein. When I used the above protein rich shampoo and conditioners, I felt an instant dry.. a dry which I have never felt even with the most sulfate rich shampoos.
I have very fine hair so this is surprising to me. However, may the low porosity is the cause? or that protein may be drying?

here are the links I found:
What are Humectants?
Humidity, Humectants and Hair
Dry, dry climate and bad hair days (help!)
Lots of humectants in Dry/cool weather?