Hi! It's hard to rec makeup colors online. But you look like you have a warm undertone. So I'd start with a shade like Nutmeg by Black Opal: Black Opal - True Color Liquid Foundation
. Black Opal is sold at WalMart and drug stores, and they have good shades for WoC. Try several shades on in person.
Really, the best way to make sure your foundation looks consistent is to match your foundation color to your chest. Once you find your shade, then apply the foundation to your face, neck and upper chest. That's not practical for most people though!
Ooohhh...pink and gold sounds pretty. Here's what I'd do: Smudge the pink on the outer two-thirds of your lids, blend the edges to soften them, apply the gold into the inner one-third of your lids. Line your lashes with dark brown or black pencil or eyeshadow, and apply mascara!
I see what you mean about having different size eyes. That's pretty common and there isn't much you can do to camouflage it with makeup...