Yes my 7 year old is taller than 4'1", but in any case, she is tiny, yes?
I find it works to just hang out with my teenagers, LOL. When I am with my littlest kids, people tend to think I am in my 30s, when I am with my teens people think I am my age; and when I am with all of them I think people think I am the grandma, LOL. I'm tall but skinny and athletic - I think the body type reads a little younger than curvy and full-bodied.
She may always be *cute* in her looks, if she's just made that way, and shouldn't worry about it. If it were my mom i would just tell her you look good and younger men are good for older women anyway, they can keep up! So perhaps she could also open her mind to dating younger guys, if she is young in her looks and spirit. Not generationally younger, or at least that would ick me, personally, but a some years younger man can be a good match to an active woman, you know?
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