Welcome, ssarahdee! If you've stopped damaging your hair with heat, got rid of harsh, drying products and you're using moisturizing ones, and you're still having trouble with definition, then maybe you need to experiment with different techniques or styling products. Many curlies find that plopping helps with curl formation and definition. I like scrunching in LOOB and/or homemade FSG. Manipulating my hair in any way while drying can cause me to lose definition and bring on frizz. I scrunch in my product, gently scrunch with a microfiber towel, clip the crown for some volume then fight the urge to touch while it dries. Without the right styling products, my hair is a mass of cotton candy. Hubby used to call me "Poodlehead." A little LOOB or Ecostyler topped off with a little gel and I've got tight spirals.
3B, fine, normal to low porosity
Modified CG since June 2010
HGs: FSG, anything with glycerin, Tresemme Naturals conditioner, Curls Like Us cloths, satin pillowcases.