my uncle is making his final preperations and getting his affairs in order. He needs a walker to walk and can't eat. His kids thought it was a good idea to take him out to dinner. He didn't want to tell his kids but told my dad he didn't want to go and would rather stay home. He skipped taking his pain meds so he could stay awake. My dad and grandma is a little angry with his kids. They only come around when they want something. I understand they want to do something nice for their dad, but taking a person out to dinner who can't eat and barely walk is not the best imo.
My dad is planning to go see him and alone and talk to him. Whn he first diagnoised 2 years ago he told my dad he was afraid and they had a talk or religion and such. My dad once to talk to him again to make sure he is no longer afraid and ready mentally. My dad is the only who my uncle will talk to about spiritual things.
I know my dad is hurting because this is his second brother who is was best friends with who has passed. My uncle sean passed over 20 years ago and it still hurts, now my uncle mike is going. This is the only siblin my dad speaks to at least once a week.
This is hard for my grandma because she has outlived 2 kids already. She got emotional and told us she shouldn't be outliving her kids. She has just had her leg amputated and was recovering nicely. Once we got the news of my uncle she got an infection in her leg. Before the doctor was sure she would be ready for a prosthetic by summer. Now he is not so sure.