Thanks. I want to be there as much as I can. She doesn't have much family around and they aren't the most sympathetic or supporting people at times. It's her first baby and I just want to help as much as I can in whatever way possible.
I told her and her SO today not to hesitate to ask if they need anything. And food is at the top of that list. I cook anyway so making extra isn't a problem. Plus T loves my cooking. She got really excited when i offered dinner for the week. I'm glad that it comes at a time when my kids won't be in school and since I'm a SAHM with older kids I can be available if/when she needs me.
I remember all the emotions I felt after my first and how tired and lonely I became. Everyone had a been-there-done-that attitude with me and when I expressed my frustrations they shrugged them off. No one ever talked to me about post-partum depression or other feelings along those lines. I was just supposed to be over the moon about my baby. I also lived on the opposite end of the country and had no help. I just want her to know she isn't alone.
I've also made it a point to ask her how she is, talk with her, sit with her, before I hold the baby. I remember feeling, after both my kids were born, that everyone wanted baby and I was put on the back burner. I want her to know how important she is to me.
I am really happy that she trusts me enough to share her feelings so soon after the birth.
And in case you wanted to see my precious new "nephew", here is me with Baby Logan.
My fat thumb will make mistakes.