My hair really doesn't like conditioner much. I kept using it because the bottom half of my hair was so damaged from coloring that I needed it to detangle, and also because my scalp needs some. Two months ago I switched to henna, chopped the damage off, and drastically reduced using conditioner. I use it when I shampoo (which is no more than 2x a week), but what I do is put it on my scalp/root area, and then rinse it down the length. I never use a LI. I wet-style most days, but I just water rinse. No conditioner. My hair responds very, very well to this regimen.
It took me awhile (and too much money) to figure out that no, it's not that I haven't found the "holy grail" conditioner. It's that my hair doesn't NEED much conditioner. I can use just about any conditioner as long as it's not more than twice a week.
2C/3A, fine, normal porosity.