I don't have any issues with the blogger's statement at all. Sure, in certain environments, we do have to behave a certain way, conform to a dress code or whatever, but that doesn't mean we've changed who or what we are once we step outside those environments. If anything, sometimes my bending over backwards in order to fit in caused me more grief in the long run. An example of this would be my hair (well, this is a hair board, after all). From practically the cradle, it was implied and flat out said that I had nappy hair and that it was ugly. In order for me to be deemed acceptable, my hair had to be straightened. I started getting perms in high school and they took my edges and my crown out. Did I stop then? No. Because the people around me believed that if I wore my hair the way it grew out of my scalp, that I'd never get a job, have a man, etc. Many of us on this board have heard the spiel. Over the years, my hair got damaged even more. Eventually, in an attempt to hide the damage, I got extensions and weaves, but guess what? They only damaged my hair even further. My edges are still extremely thin nearly three years after I went fully natural. I don't know how I still have any hair, really. If I hadn't been so eager to fit in and gone natural years ago, my hair would have sustained less damage.
Fine haired, low density, highly porous curly kinky lady
Last relaxer: Not sure. 3/08 or 4/08
Co-wash: Suave Naturals, HEHH, Trader Joe's Tea Tree Tingle, CJ Daily Fix
Leave-In: KCKT, Giovanni Direct Leave-In, CJ Smoothing Lotion
Stylers: ORS Twist and Loc Gel, KCCC, Ecostyler, SheaMoisture Deep Treatment Masque
Deep Conditioner: DevaCurl Heaven In Hair, CJ Deep Fix