I no longer use regular ponytail holders, even ouch less...I've been using these ponytail hooks
and LOVE them! They took a little getting used to, but once I got the hang of them I don't use anything else. I don't lose hair when taking them out and my hair is tailbone length.
I use Hairsticks/chopsticks and hair forks mostly. There are a bunch of sellers on etsy.com. Prices vary from reasonably cheap to very expensive. It all depends on your taste. I love spin pins as well. I also have several flexi-8
barrettes. I love the mini size for pulling back small bits of hair out of my face. I usually inspect a hair accessory pretty thoroughly before purchasing if possible.
As for me, if I hear hairs snap when the accessory is going in or when I'm taking it out of my hair, it's either gone or I fix it with nail polish or file it. Hope you find something that works!