Amen to everything you have said in this thread!! It is about learning to love our hair...I recently just started leaving conditoner in mine...nothing else and plopping. I can honestly say I love my frizzy, fantastically imperfect hair as it is...even if it is way less curly without gel or anything. But it is what it is....I've always admired your hair on the boards and can't wait until mine starts to get that long!