I'm still fiddling around trying new products to see what my hair likes best. I agree with FancyFree, you need to try some different styling products.
Also, when I'm going to start a new product, I like to shampoo and do a deep condish first, even something as simple as warm olive oil and honey. Sort of a reset.
3b-c, growing it out (it's really short right now, peices in the front just touch my nose if I stretch them out! lol), no-poo, no cones