Myrna, It IS the same thing as a wax. My SO thinks I'm attractive down there but prefers everything "cleaned up". I do it 3 or 4 times a year, waxing is an enchantment of my sexuality like wearing lingerie and makeup. Strengthening your hair every now and then to make you self more attractive to SO isn't s huge deal!! He never called her ugly or unattractive with curls, just a preference for it straightened, like when they meet.
Have none of you ever said to your SO, shave your beard before we go to... I have. I want, NEED, my SO to be clean shaven before we go to see my parents. He does it monday-friday and generally doesn't on the weekends. I think he looks much more attractive clean shaven and he knows it. Plus I hate kissing him when his face is scratchy. I've also instructed him "it's time for a hair cut" or "let me trim your bangs". Even if he went bald or grew out a full beard I would still love him but I would prefer a full head of hair cut just so and a clean shave.
He never said, go get a chemical treatment, never wear it curly or that Chrystal looked ugly. He hurt your feeling and you should probably let him know. But why not. When you shower it will spring back up the same way makeup washed off