CurlTalk - View Single Post - Is it really that unusual to get married in early 20s and be happy?

Saria · 06-22-2012, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by sleepymeko

Haha, you're saying I don't know what my cousins need when you don't even know them. That's funny to me! They're worse than I am and I know they're marrying because they're lonely. I know how they are, you don't. That's the end of that story

And I am WELL aware that my idea of having fun isn't the idea for everyone else. What I was SAYING was that people should do things that they consider fun, be a little wild sometimes, instead of actively looking for a relationship. When something is GOOD it will last whether or not you get married or not. I was ALSO saying that I wasn't into partying until recently. What someone may be into when they're 21 is definitely not what they're into when they're 23 or 24. People change drastically when they're in their twenties, I do not understand why you are not grasping this concept.

Do you get it now?

And as for still having a BF and doing all those things, that's wonderful but I don't want the responsibility of a relationship. Having to call someone and talk to them all the time is not something I want to do. And when I make those amazing memories (as of NOW) I don't want to look back and see an ex-bf in my mind. Why? Because I know that if I was to get in a relationship RN it would be temporary. Have I been in love before? SURE! Did I ever want to marry any of them? Nope. Being in love isn't enough for me to get married. Love is just one thing you need for marriage. There are so many OTHER things you need in a marriage besides love.

And partying and being wild isn't stupid, haha. It's called getting that **** out of the way so I don't turn into those loser thirty year olds you see at clubs still trying to be cool SMH

I'm not trying to tell you anything about your cousins. You initially framed the issue as your cousins being regretful that they married young because they couldn't have your life. So no, it doesn't invalidate my point about you making assumptions about people who choose to get married young. Basically, what you revealed afterwards about them just points to the real problem with them being married young, not that marrying young itself is the problem.

And of course marriage entails more than just being in love. My point is why do you assume that people who decide to do it young don't think about these things? Or that they do it for the wrong reasons? You paint with a VERY wide brush.

Also, I'm older than you and I'm never going to want to party. It's just not something that's ever going to be an appealing lifestyle to me. Ever. You can party away. I promise I won't feel deprived.