I'm single because I haven't found someone (lately) who adds to my life rather than stifling it who is also a romantic interest. My friends all fill that role, and I hope to have a romantic interest and someday husband who does as well. It's not worth being in a relationship with someone who stifles me - and I don't think anyone in this thread has said it is.
Were you high when you typed this? Just wondering since you mentioned that being single allows you to get high with your friends, and, well, you very well could have been when you typed that....
This is true. I'm starting to think that since there's no longer the same pressure to marry young many people take longer to grow up and STILL don't know themselves well, even if they get married later! Perhaps it's just that getting married can be such a big change even if you don't think it is at the start of a marriage, and so no one truly knows themselves until it happens. I know I thought of having long term futures with men well before dating one who made me re-think what it meant to find someone with whom I was compatible. I knew a lot about how well I wanted to be treated from men who treated me fabulously, but he taught me something about being with a man who I simply felt I could talk with every day for the rest of my life without getting bored. It definitely changed what I look for, and I have realized since that's actually very hard to find.
As an aside Spidey's post made me think of, I believe my parents' marriage would have been much happier had they not tried to stick to the stereotypical roles of men and women in marriages as they were groomed to do. My father is brilliant and intellectually curious, and I think had he been the stay at home parent he would have continued growing intellectually and had a blast. He really is great with kids, and I think would have loved helping out in our classrooms and never stopped growing as a person while doing so. My mom was an assistant to the VP of a company before moving to follow my dad's career, and lights up discussing the work she did as a labor estimator in those days, and how she affected job roles within her company. Had she kept her career, I believe she would have done quite well and her self esteem and personal growth wouldn't have taken the nosedive they did when she became a stay at home mom. That didn't have to do with age in my parents' case, but had to do with taking on roles which weren't as much to their personal benefit.