I am fed up with my hair and want it to behave! I've been trying numerous things without success.

I have 3a hair, fine, porosity not sure :/ I have a lot of it when fully dry without product, but I'm growing out some seriously annoying layers.

The other night I co-washed with V05 with collagen and got these big fat sausage curls. Gels dry me out. I used the flax seed gel from aveda and it made my hair so crunchy and dry! Awful! If I use conditioner though my hair gets limp and soft. I use to just shampoo with suave coconut, then use Regis curl cream and got great results. I would also use dove curl and sculpt which was great! But it's discontinued and I don't like the new one. I used to live in Miami and am now in Kentucky.

Help?