Gels always caused frizz for me. Discovered that my hair didn't like polyquats, especially 4 and 10. They build up on me, too.
I use "jelly" products. They have the gelatinous consistency, but not the chemicals. A lot are in my signature--CK Coil Jam, As I Am Styling Jelly, DM Curling Gelly, UFD Curly Magic, BS Curl Puree, KCCC and TT Moisturizing Styler and homemade FSG to name a few.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity
modified CG, since April '07
CG since 3/11/08
HGs: Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; DM MiraCurls Curling Gelly; UFD Curly Magic; Shescentit LIs; Sevi conditioners; Botanical Spirits Puree, CJ Repair Me