Ninjarette has brought up a lot of good points.

Personally, the term "nappy" only offends me when it is used in a way mean to insult me.

The funny thing is, I take it differently depending on if the speaker is relaxed or natural. I don't mean to, but it's like when white people say the "n word" versus black people saying the "n word." It's kind of like "only family can talk about family, so only natural girls can call me nappy because I feel I know exactly what they mean." Silly right?

One day soon, people will put the negative use of nappy behind them!

I also don't refer to my own hair or anyone else's hair as nappy. I don't know the condition of someone else's hair (whether it's tangled or unkept) because things can LOOK one way, but actually be another way. I just know how I like MY hair to look and feel to ME.
Originally Posted by LaCurlyMariposa
I don't use or like the n word but I will say my friend girls, relatives and some of my coworkers call each other Bs, heffas and heauxs all the time and fall out laughing about it. We think it's funny. One of my best friends is a guy from Mexico and we tease eachother with racial stereotypes and find it hilarious. But I will say we don't do it in front of any old body.

Now let someone I'm not cool with call me something like that and it not go over well at all.
A black woman's fro is worth a million words- adthomas

Last edited by adthomas; 07-12-2012 at 07:14 PM.