Transitioning -- trying to keep relaxed hair.
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Join Date: Jul 2012
: Transitioning -- trying to keep relaxed hair.
Hi everyone. I posted this same post in the transitioning thread, but now I am posting it here and would really appreciate any help/tips you can give me. I'm 19 years old, and I believe I got my first relaxer when I was about 10 years old. Ever since then, I've been relying on relaxers to keep my hair straight. My mom told me it was because I would always complain about how painful it was to get my hair done and, along with joining dance classes, it got difficult to manage. When I was younger, I didn't find it a problem -- in fact, I kept my hair in a healthy state for a long time. It wasn't until high school that I started noticed some damage. Oh, if only I would have learned to stop resorting to relaxers every time new growth came in. But see, I didn't even know what new growth was back then. I always saw it as a poofy mess sprouting from my roots and all I wanted to do was tackle it with relaxers to make my hair pretty and straight again. Too bad I was wrong about the pretty part. One day, I decided to do a relaxer on my own and straight up slabbed it all over my head. I know some of you ladies are probably cringing already as you know that is NOT the way to apply a relaxer. And you probably guessed it... my hair was NOT happy when I was done with it. Other applications such as getting them from drugstores and occasionally going to the salon seemed fine after a while, but I just didn't notice the damage I was doing to my poor hair. Now, I have decided to transition. I am 4 months post relaxer and proud of myself, to an extent. I'm at a loss though. Hardly remembering what my curly hair was like at a young age, it's difficult to manage and my relaxed hair is pretty much dead. But sometimes I apply olive oil and eggs, or even mayonnaise to moisturize it. It's a little above my shoulders and I'm definitely not ready to do a big chop. That idea is actually far from my mind. And sometimes, when I don't use the correct products, my hair literally feels like straw and it really upsets me. I was just wondering, what is it that I can do to save my hair? The reason it's gotten so bad is because after every wash, I blow-dry and straighten my hair. I don't shampoo often, but I do condition every 2-3 days. Any advice? I'm praying that I'll find the help I need and feel confident about my hair again. Thank you ladies. And if you need any more information, just let me know. I just joined today and I'm still trying to get used to this site.
On a side note, I'd like to add that I'm mixed. African American and Asian, but I'm not entirely sure what my hair type is. If any of you can help me out with that as well, that'd be great.