Ummmm you shouldn't have to prove anything. If your hair is on the frizzy side then your hair is on the frizzy side and he needs to accept that like you accept him. However I could be biased since I love huge, frizzy (as long as it don't look DRY), poofy hair.
Because I do like huge hair and dont mind the frizz I use curl cremes if I want a moisturized, more "defined" curly look...but I live in a humid climate and my hair puffs up throughout the day. I'm not big on gel/mousse either, so I don't know what to tell you. I'm so unhelpful
Good luck though!
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