While I don't necessarily think they are fishing for compliments, I know what you mean. I remember one pic someone posted with awesome, defined, shiny curls with a minimum (to me) amount of halo frizz moaning about how bad their hair looked that day. I posted that her pic was hair I can only dream about having. As Gretchen noted, we all have different experience and expectations for our hair.
Experimenting with too many products to name here. All this great info keeps my head spinning.