Getting overwhelmed and discouraged

So I keep reading all the posts and I'm getting pretty overwhelmed and discouraged. I don't know what products to use really, right now just using the deva curl line and there seems to be so many that I feel like I would have to do trial and error for years! and then I read that you can mess up and LOSE your curls?? I'm just trying to figure out how to best bring them out and care for them. How in the world do you do this? I did a PT tonight and now I'm worried my waves will fall out. ack. and the PT had jojoba oil in it which I heard makes some peoples hair flat. my head is spinning
I know exactly how you feel. I've felt like being stuck in a rut countless times.
Don't give up though!

PTs can be washed out over time and won't do any serious permanent damage to your hair, usually

I think it takes a lot of work finding your HG products...but once you do, you know how amazing it feels? I myself haven't gotten there yet but I'm getting closer.

One thing you might want to do is write down and keep track of what products you've used and the main ingredients in each. It's easier to tell what your hair likes and doesn't like that way, so when you buy your next product, you'll know what to look for.

Something I've learned is that what other people have experienced and their reviews don't always help, especially regarding hair. Hair is a very personal thing. It acts differently for different people So don't be afraid to try new stuff and experiment a bit! Good luck
Hair type: 2C-3A, very dry, extremely low porosity, med elasticity, insanely thick kinky-wavy.
HGs: Trader Joe's Nourish spa conditioner, Epsom salt rinse, Joico K-pak conditioner
What I find helps a little is to keep it simple. When I start to feel my hair acting weird, I go back to a basic routine of co-wash, RO, LI, gel, plop, air dry. It doesn't give me my favourite look but it allows me to troubleshoot and figure out what is needed (or not). You will also figure out quickly what you are looking for in a product.

I don't think you need to worry too much about damaging your curls. Just make sure you limit heat and chemicals.

Good luck!
I agree with the above posters. As long as you aren't damaging your hair with chemicals and heat, anything you do can be undone. Too much protein? Add moisture. Too much moisture? Add protein. Jojoba causing problems? An ACV rinse will get it out. In fact even minor heat and chemical damage can be temporarily fixed with protein.
It is trial and error. But even on bad hair days, my hair is better then good hair days pre CG. Everyone is overwhelmed in the beginning. There is a super steep learning curve with CG.
http://pedaheh.blogspot.com/ (a blog to help new wavies, go to the how do I get started page)
2a (nc.com) 2bFi (Fia), very fine, thin, low/normal elasticity, porous, CG, doesn't get weighed down
Cowash: Tresemme naturals
Rinse out/leave in: Renpure Organics (red)
Curl enhancer: FSG
Gel: BRHG, Salon care aloe, Ecostyler Krystal (normal dews)
PT: ION effective care, IAgirl's gelatin PT
Low Poo: renpure (red), Ion swimmers
Thanks, this makes me feel better. but a question about the heat, what about diffusing? I feel like I have to diffuse to keep waves from getting weighed down, and I try to diffuse til it's close to dry, is that harmful?
It's fun to experiment! Yes there are a lot of products. My advice to all the newbs is to try the cheap products first. A lot of wavies have success with the following cheaper drugstore products:

-Ecostyler
-LA Looks Gels
-GFTN
-V05 conditioners
-FSG (homemade, not drugstore)
-AVG
-faux Biolage Conditioning Balm

Advice #2 is to concentrate on technique just as much as product. Experiment with techniques like Super Soaker, Smasters, spritz n condish, pixie diffusing, etc.
Check out this method, it's called pixie diffusing. I tried it this morning for the 1st time and it worked really well!

YouTube - TeaSeaInc's Channel
A|G
"iron clothes not hair"
2b (blonde highlights)

Products
:
Trying them all! So far, not settling down... FL is a challenge!

*Modified CG since Feb'2011
About diffusing and heat: my very fine hair is easily heat damaged, so I (less often than I should) diffuse my hair on cool. On my $12 blow dryer, cool is "high speed" but it seems to work just fine. Kind of loud, though.
Sure, some things make waves and curls go flat or straighter and everybody else has given you great advice for that. They come back.

For the best hair, always scrunch in a liberal, generous layer of patience and follow that with a palmful of persistence. You'll get there. Relax and enjoy the ride.
http://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/
I hate to be less than encouraging, but I am one who has been through DOZENS of products to find a few that work. You may be like me. It is really trial and error. At first. Now after doing this almost a year I know products that have a good chance of working because I know ingredients that work and those that do not for me. Scout the swap board, buy samples from Kathymack and see if others may be interested in a sample swap with you with products you already have.

I actually have an excel spreadsheet where I have listed EVERY product that I have tried, my results and if I would repurchase. I hate to tell you that it has 56 items on it.
I am now returning back to some products that I tried in the beginning and my notes help me remember why I do not want to try it again.
I'm 47. Straight hair until 6/2010. THANKS, thyroid!
2b, medium-fine, normal-low porosity, medium density and elasticity
CG since 7/1/2010

Cleanse: Abba Color Protect
Condition: DevaCurl OC
LI: CJ-Deep Fix, Beauticurls LI
Curl Enhancer:
CHS Curl Keeper, KCCC
Gel: Alba Strong Hold Gel, BRHG, Hugo Naturals Gel, SS FHG, CJPP
Trying/Maybe: Ecostyler,CJRM
Scout the swap board, buy samples from Kathymack and see if others may be interested in a sample swap with you with products you already have.

I actually have an excel spreadsheet where I have listed EVERY product that I have tried, my results and if I would repurchase. I hate to tell you that it has 56 items on it.
Originally Posted by justajesuschick
+1 to both statements! Now that's what I call organization. If you're the easily frustrated type (as so many of us are) this will alleviate much anxiety and help you pick out trends. What the heck, as long as you're using Excel, you could make some smart-looking graphs! (eek! kidding!)
http://science-yhairblog.blogspot.com/
What the heck, as long as you're using Excel, you could make some smart-looking graphs! (eek! kidding!)
Originally Posted by IAgirl
haha!

"Now this pie chart represents dollars spent to products that actually succeeded". "This bar graph represents the number of uses each product sustained before being relegated to the swap board or the trash (please note that the legend shows that the swap board is green, trash is blue)" "I have developed this graph to display the ratio of glycerin to dew point"....oh, dear. You have given me ideas!!!
I'm 47. Straight hair until 6/2010. THANKS, thyroid!
2b, medium-fine, normal-low porosity, medium density and elasticity
CG since 7/1/2010

Cleanse: Abba Color Protect
Condition: DevaCurl OC
LI: CJ-Deep Fix, Beauticurls LI
Curl Enhancer:
CHS Curl Keeper, KCCC
Gel: Alba Strong Hold Gel, BRHG, Hugo Naturals Gel, SS FHG, CJPP
Trying/Maybe: Ecostyler,CJRM

Last edited by justajesuschick; 04-13-2011 at 04:43 PM.
Going CG (or mod-CG for some of us) can definitely be a really frustrating process. Your hair and scalp go through a ton of changes and everything that might have worked before, suddenly makes your hair look less than fabulous. Like all the other lovely ladies are saying, it really is a giant trial-and-error process with both products and techniques. Luckily, there's tons of great info. here on the NC site but it can be confusing! Start with a little at a time and don't be afraid to ask questions. Everyone on the boards are really sweet and helpful. Good luck!!!!!
2a, fine-med. text, normal porosity (I think)

[FONT=Going back and forth between Herbal Essence Don't Fade On Me shampoo and condish and L'oreal Sulfate Free shampoo

Stylers-
- Not Your Mother's Curl Cream, La Bella Sports Gel, Aussie Sprunch Spray

[/COLOR][/FONT] [I][B]My waves are finally getting stronger thanks to weekly PTs and longer hair in general. Still trying to grow it out though!

mod-CG since December '10

I have Celiac's Disease so no gluten please!

My hair is basically my hobby!!

http://balancedbeauty.blogspot.com/
haha, thanks so much ladies for giving me encouragement and a few chuckles.. I'll keep trying and working with methods. I am going to finish up my deva products and then go with some other stuff once my hair gets used to it, that way i'll have a better idea what my hair does and what its responding to
Can you tell us a bit ABOUT your hair properties? Many of us here would love to suggest some products for you to get or try.
I'm 47. Straight hair until 6/2010. THANKS, thyroid!
2b, medium-fine, normal-low porosity, medium density and elasticity
CG since 7/1/2010

Cleanse: Abba Color Protect
Condition: DevaCurl OC
LI: CJ-Deep Fix, Beauticurls LI
Curl Enhancer:
CHS Curl Keeper, KCCC
Gel: Alba Strong Hold Gel, BRHG, Hugo Naturals Gel, SS FHG, CJPP
Trying/Maybe: Ecostyler,CJRM

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