I wasn't co-washing properly!
I kept thinking "just give it a while, maybe your hair just needs to get used to it!" Well, this morning I was sort of feeling the top of my hair.. the slightly too greasy top of my hair. I kept thinking "Oh, if ONLY I could take a brush to this and pull it down to the drier parts of my hair!!" I resisted, but man it was hard! LOL. So I was reading about co-washing again and saw I somehow missed maybe the most important step! Continuing the friction while rinsing. What a difference!! My hair felt clean but slightly moisturized, my RO didn't feel so weighty and rinsed out more easily, and so far (I still have to SOTC) so much more body and curl.