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catspajamas 01-04-2013 03:14 PM

Frustrated with my 2b hair :p
 
I have 2b hair &I'm really frustrated with how gross & different it turns out each time.
My 2b hair is quite thick and reaches a little below my shoulders. Depending on the day it can be very spirally or very S shaped.
It is unreliable in the fact that if I get out of the shower, depending on how long I take to get in my clothes, It can already start drying and turn out differently depending on how wet it is.
What I hate the most is how frizzy it can sometimes get up by the scalp or just all over, and be flat on the top.
I have been trying everything in my power to try to find a good curly hair routine.
•plopping doesn't seem to work
•the curly girl method makes my hair greasy
•diffusing is a risk in which no matter what it can make my hair very frizzy or not really do anything for it.
I own a multitude of products: noodle head products, herbal essence mousse, ojon spray(for frizzy/damaged hair), and sexy curly hair creme(which I use now). I have also tried gel before.
I have a good hair stylist who works at a professional hair salon.
But I'm stumped.
I'm 15 years old, almost 16, so I can't exactly afford high end products, I won't be able to drive to places myself, or order products from online.
My hairstylist isn't quite cheap..so I've been awhile without a hair cut and color touch up (cough..5 months..its not quite fun but, oh well.)
So that may have some effect, but still, its pretty much like this anyways.
Any help would be fantastic!

Oh yes and over time throughout the day my hair can turn out like this
http://i1284.photobucket.com/albums/...ps2f7e2ee2.jpg
I consider that to be a "good day" even though it is still quite frizzy.
Lately its been flat and frizzy, notice how my scalp is still flat.

I feel so low self esteemed sometimes because my hair can turn out so crappy...and I really want nice wavy/curly hair, or even straight or something other than mine!
I never know different cute up-do's to do, and my hair paired with the glasses I sometimes wear make me feel like I look ridiculous...idk.
I'm sick of stressing over it.

claudine19 01-04-2013 04:43 PM

Hi catspajamas.

I have mostly type 2b hair as well, and the part that's driving you most crazy --- the unpredictability--- is the feature it freed me most to embrace. Instead of fighting of trying hard to control my hair everyday, I learned to just sort of go with it. This is actually fun, as long as you're confident in your cut.

I don't think your hair looks frizzy in your photo. I think that clumping might help you, and also, fewer, more blended layers. Youtube probably has some good videos on how to diffuse; it took me a few years (I'm not kidding) to learn how to get good results that way.

Finally, give yourself a break. If you're worn out, just let it dry naturally for a few days and see what it does. At the very least, you'll learn where the S curves appear, so you can help them along when you feel like trying again.

Hang in there --- type 2 hair is neither fish nor fowl, but that's what makes it interesting.

HTH

jakrussel3 01-06-2013 12:04 PM

Your hair actually looks a bit like mine. I'm 2b too. I know exactly what you mean about it being unpredictable. I never know what I'm going to get day to day. I wish I had a stronger curl pattern, but I guess it just isn't in my cards. So I just go with it like Claudine said.

Going sulfate free left me a bit greasy at first too, but my scalp adjusted after a few weeks and now as long as I massage/scrub my scalp really well and rinse really well, I'm good, What do you use to wash your hair? In the summer, I always use a sulfate free shampoo (DevaCare low-poo) and follow up with a rinse out conditioner. In the winter when it's really dry out, I wash with straight conditioner (cowash) most of the time (Suave Naturals Lavender) and skip the low poo. If you're cowashing, maybe try a sulfate free shampoo instead if you're feeling greasy. And make sure you're really massaging/rubbing your scalp and rinsing well. That made such a huge difference for me when I started out. My DevaCare low poo runs about $18 for a 12 oz bottle, but I only wash 2-3 times a week and I only use a small amount each time, focusing most of it on cleaning my scalp. That bottle has lasted me a year and I've still got at least another 2-3 months of shampoo left in it. You can probably find less expensive low poos out there though. I'm a little more restricted because I have to find wheat free products.

Also, regular trims really help me out. My hair starts acting really funky at about 11 weeks, so I get a trim every 12 weeks.

Good luck!

claudine19 01-06-2013 12:54 PM

No-poo is no-good for me.

Alycat 01-07-2013 11:43 AM

Hi, another 2b-er here. I can only echo what the others have said, 2b hair is wildly unpredictable and somehow we've got to find a way of accepting that. I'm MUCH older than you and I'm still struggling with it, so I do sympathise!

I think we are often our worst critics too, I've recently had two different guys genuinely not understand when I complained about my hair and say, 'you're crazy, your hair is great, it's just part of you.' So I try to think of that when I look in the mirror.

And believe me your hair looks better behaved than mine - mine is very, very fine, very, very fluffy and a mad mix of wavy bits, curly bits and straight bits.

I tried CG techniques and tons of products on and off for 3 years and my hair looked worse at the end than when I started - so don't be too disheartened if you can't buy loads of products, I think with 2 hair it's more about routine, and you can still try out all the tips and tricks on here. Some will work, some won't, try not to get too disheartened over those.

Each time I ditched CG in despair I found I kept stuff I had learned which did work.

For what it's worth, I now shampoo with a gentle sulphate shampoo and use either a conditioner with a silicone or Moroccan Oil, which also has silicones.

I detangle wet hair with a Denman, comb with a fine tooth comb to smooth the fluff, scrunch with a microfibre towel, comb through again with the Denman to clump the curl and then lightly blow dry - a diffuser just creates a horrible mess (and I should know, I bought three of them, convinced one would work!)

All of that is really against the 'rules' of CG - but it works well for me and I would never have found it without trying, and failing, at CG.

The other thing that helps me hugely is a silk pillowcase - my hair usually (but not always!) looks good for a second day if I've slept on that. Before I could afford one I scrounged a scarf in a silky material from my mother and slept with that thrown over the pillow.

I'm not saying any of that will necessarily help you, just that some of what you find on this website certainly will, so hang in there!

lethalcurls 01-07-2013 11:58 AM

I think most of us 2's can understand the unpredictably of type 2 hair. Anyway I'll second the routine bit. Routine seems to really help, I also brush my hair which is against the rules of CG... I wouldn't say I use strictly CG.

The Kinky-Curly line can be found at most Target and Whole Foods stores so you might be able to convince your parents to buy you that. It is expensive when you add it all up, but I when I was your age I could usually barter extra chores to get something a little extra. Just grab the Knot Today and Come Clean if you can barter with your parents a little bit. Remember though if you go this route you have to follow up though! At the very least it will show them that you really care and want this.

Keep your chin up, I always think my hair looks like crap but I find other people don't usually agree with me. :laughing1:


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