Hi Owentwins! Congrats on your babies! I am not an expert (I just started in March 2013) but I thought I'd share the tips that work best for ME (although my properties are a bit different).
To avoid frizz, my tips are:
use more leave-in conditioner than you thought you needed
use more gel than you thought you needed
apply both while hair is still really wet, head upside down
then scrunch out water with t-shirt, not terrycloth towel
Try not to touch it much at all with your hands
diffuse till about 80% dry
I can relate to your decision to go wavy/curly instead of flat-ironing. I was doing the same, and had a cut that almost required it. I liked how I looked with a sleek bob, but I knew it was hurting my hair over time to do all that flat ironing. In fact, I thought my hair was "mostly straight," with a little stubborn wrinkle of a wave to it, because that is always how I have treated it.
But now that I've ditched sulfates, and also silicones, from my hair routine and done the above steps, my hair is way wavier than I thought! When I started in early March, I thought I was a 2A. Within 2 weeks, I decided I was more of a 2B. Over the last week, with a haircut to freshen things up a bit and some further tweaks to my routine, I'm strongly in the 2B camp and maybe getting even a little curlier! The little girl across the street called out to me yesterday, "I like your curly hair!" I thought to myself, "wow, you can see it, from across the street! And you said curly!" I can hardly believe it, I've had this hair all this time and just didn't realize it because I was basically abusing it.
Best wishes with your babies and your new hair!
Started embracing the 2b waves in March 2013. I can't believe how immediate the difference, when I stopped using sulfates! Now I need guidance on most everything else.
My best guess so far at my hair profile: 2b, medium porosity, fine and med width strands, low-to-med density, medium length.