I'm so glad to find some support here! I'm extra frustrated with the waves because I used to have silky, bouncy, shiny, thick curls. Over the past few years hormones and stress have turned it into a dry, dull, thin, unmanageable mess! It doesn't even look good straightened out anymore...just powdery dry and flyaway. But one thing that works for a good part of the day (unless it is windy or I or someone else touches my hair) is to put stuff in it when it's wet and then twist it in sections and let the fake curls dry, then gently break them up. (I look pretty stupid while it's drying because you can see my scalp between the curled bunches.) I haven't found a good product, though. Thanks for being here!