Answered you in the 3a forum, but I would try Jessicurl's oil blend for softer hair (I was thinking you have this?), otherwise Avocado oil on the ends overnight, or CurlyBrunette's Shea It Ain't So on the ends as a leave-in.
You mean if you're getting ready to go out? In that case I would still use a little bit of CB's shea leave-in (I use it on dry hair all the time), or the Karite Nut Curl Milk might help as well. I guess I would only put the oils in if it were overnight or if I weren't going anywhere.
I scrunch in a little conditioner like EMB, Aloeba or the new Curls Moisturizer. Then I use less than a pea size amount of Jane Carter Nourish & Shine. It is wonderful and you only need a very little bit so it lasts forever. I will have to try SIAS now too Lush.