am stuck

hello, i have no idea what is the 'best length', for my hair. every stylist i go to says i have to straighten it if i want to keep it long -.- easy as it is to be led along by that, i just somehow can't reaaaaaaaaaally settle with that.

i relaxed my hair two months ago and must not resort to it again...it does become easier to manage but doesn't feel right at all after a while. right now my hair seems drier than before i'd relaxed it, i just had a cut yesterday, the length's short-medium now.

my hair is very thick and coarse, conditioning without poo seems to work better. my hair is extremely unpredictable. i have to wash my hair close to everyday because it is super humid here.

apologies if i'm rambling. everytime i come here, i'm so compelled never to relax/straighten anymore ^^. is long hair at all possible? maybe i should just stop visiting salons and let it grow for a while? most stylists lop a lot off because "there's so much/it's so thick".

just wanna hear any opinions and etc...thanks~
I like having thick wavy hair. It is kept layered to keep "pyramid" hair down, but I think that long and wavy is beautiful. Some of my favorite hair is like that! I am trying to get this hair and it is long and wavy...



If you WANT long wavy hair - GO FOR IT! I'd get a different stylist if she is pushing you to straiten because her cut looks bad as it grows out. My hair will start to look a bit funky after three months. That extra six weeks gives me time to grow out between trims. Good luck!

Heather
pw:curly
2C
hi, yes i like thick hair too! and oh yes, the pyramid effect. i will be getting that if i leave the hair longer.

i couldn't see the long and wavy picture you posted hmm..

thanks for the reply i WOULD like long hair, i just always end up copping out when it's at that tied-with-a little-bunch-of-a-ponytail stage. i'll do my best this time ^^!~
i have very thick, coarse, dry wavy hair and i used to keep mine somewhere between jaw and shoulder length. recently i have just left it to grow. amazingly it hasn't grown out, but down! i now have hair past my boobs that is wavy/curly and doesn't look too thick. i managed it by using a low poo and loads, and i mean loads, of conditioner. i wash it about twice a week simply because i am lazy! i wash it at night, put some styling product in (non cone) and in the morning i have fab hair

i NEVER brush or comb it.....running my fingers through it when i have conditioner in is as much as i do.
i have very thick, coarse, dry wavy hair and i used to keep mine somewhere between jaw and shoulder length. recently i have just left it to grow. amazingly it hasn't grown out, but down! i now have hair past my boobs that is wavy/curly and doesn't look too thick. i managed it by using a low poo and loads, and i mean loads, of conditioner. i wash it about twice a week simply because i am lazy! i wash it at night, put some styling product in (non cone) and in the morning i have fab hair

i NEVER brush or comb it.....running my fingers through it when i have conditioner in is as much as i do.
Originally Posted by Nemesister
Is your hair one length or layered? Do you have pictures....would love to see it!!! Sounds beautiful!!!
Those stylists you went to are tards if they think the only way you can have long hair is to keep it straight.

If you check out the photos of other wavies/curlies on the board, you'll see that a lot of them have long hair.

Your hair sounds a lot like mine... I keep my hair long with layers, but I do tend to struggle a lot more with tangles. That's where using bunches of conditioner comes in handy.

I think you'll see a huge change in your hair without shampooing (especially if you stop relaxing/straightening it... hint hint! ). As far as conditioning, I find it helpful to use enough conditioner to make my hair feel really saturated, maybe a little bit slimy, before rinsing it out. Leaving a little bit in should help fight any frizz. Use products without silicones if you can, and in case you do get buildup, find a gentle cleansing shampoo (I use DevaCurl No Poo, it can be found in CurlMart on this site).

If you want long hair, I say go for it! Most hairdressers are clueless when it comes to wavy/curly hair, so I wouldn't listen to them. It's your hair; you know it better than anyone else. As long as you take good care of it, I'm sure it will look great no matter what your decision is!
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Hi Nemesister,

Thanks for writing. That's great - that the hair's growing down and not out! I am quite lazy with routines also and like to stick to shampoo + conditioner as much as possible. I've tried the "loads of conditioner" before and I agree that it works. I would love to wash it twice a week...that was exactly what I did as a kid (coz at that time I was LAZY to wash any higher number of times, tut). Maybe I can gradually try less nowadays.

I find that I have to brush though, or it'll be even dryer. But good that not brushing/combing works for you.

My hair can be tied now. Crossing my fingers I'll have enough patience to leave it longer
Hi utopiastars,

And these are the higher-end stylists - you should see some of the ones around here in the smaller neighbourhood shops [those out of the town area]. Then it's practically straight hair all the way coz a lot of Orientals/Asians have SUPER straight hair [which they still complain from time to time is "wavy"!].

I've realised that a lot of curlies/wavies have long hair. I did too when I was younger but my hair texture was a lot better then. Because my hair's been short for so long I haven't had much trouble with tangles. Now that I'm leaving it longer though, I'll keep that and the amount of conditioner in mind .

OK, I guess I'll have to resist relaxing it again . I like a straight blunt fringe very much though...not too sure what I want to do with that. I'll try less shampoo first I guess, and see how it goes. I can get dandruff if I don't use any shampoo at all.

Oh yes so true that hairdressers are clueless with wavy/curly hair. They all love working on straight hair which is nothing but predictable, tsk. Thanks for writing...back to more brainwashing for myself to erm, have enough patience to grow the hair out. Lol!
When I grow out my thick, wavy/curly hair, the weight tames the frizzies and controls the wave and the pyramid is eliminated. But you have to take really great care of it (but hey, you knew that)!
2a-3a

Fotki: curlymeg

Nature's Gate Awapuhi Volumizing Conditioner
Graham Webb Making Waves gel
jojoba or coconut oil as a DT

Hair is pretty great now that it's colder, now I'm focusing on my skin. Sniffle.
Hi Megnificent,

Point taken (to upkeep the patience too), thanks. It's taking ages...but oh well!
There are vitamins called Hair, Skin, and Nails that contain Biotin (yoiu can get them at the supermarket). The biotin increases bloodflow and makes hair grow in stronger, and I swear, faster. I even talked to my stylist about it and she agreed that it works. The only downside is that I think you have to take three a day. But it is sooooooooo worth it. But at least it will help your hair become stronger so it doesn't break as easily and you might not need to get trims as often. HTH
2a-3a

Fotki: curlymeg

Nature's Gate Awapuhi Volumizing Conditioner
Graham Webb Making Waves gel
jojoba or coconut oil as a DT

Hair is pretty great now that it's colder, now I'm focusing on my skin. Sniffle.
Hang in there Mavica!! I didn't realize my hair had grown at all untill I blow dried it strait today (I was bored - don't worry I was gentle!). It is past my shoulders now and about three inches from my bra strap in the back. Yippy! It does seem slow when you are waiting for it to grow, but just try to keep a hair cut the same length and all it does is grow! LOL!

How long is it now?
HeatherDawn
2C/3A
Hi Megnificent, thanks for the info on biotin! I read the same thing about seaweed [that it makes the hair grow faster/stronger]. My hair is VERY strong already though, and I'm taking several vitamins/supplements, so I might skip the biotin for the moment.

HeatherDawn: thanks! And congrats on the length of your hair! My hair's now very layered from the last cut. The bottom layer is just grazing the shoulder, maybe a little lower. The stump of a ponytail's getting slightly thicker though . Hanging in there...

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