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Old 01-28-2010, 03:47 PM   #1
 
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Default OT: Do you take stuff on this board personally?

Just wondering-it appears some take stuff WAY too personally.

Just curious if you guys tend to take everything you see/read/whatever with a grain of salt, or if you let other folks bother you?

Some will know what I'm talking about...
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Old 01-28-2010, 03:52 PM   #2
 
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I think I did at first. I've come to realize that people have differences of opinion and many people disagree with me, just as I disagree with them.

There are times when this site reminds me of "Mean Girls."
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EXACTLY! I personally get a kick out of stirring the pot-. It doesn't bother me when someone else doesn't agree with me, though apparently some folks don't like it when I don't agree with them.

I love how if you disagree, you're either a) an idiot b) a zealot or c) an extremist.

Cracks me up!
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The style of disagreement, dissension, and dialogue has much with to do with how one is perceived here. It's rare that a reasonable poster will be treated or responded to with a lack of respect.
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With still being relatively new to this forum, I have found most everyone has been very kind and helpful, I haven't noticed many "rude" postings. Just like anywhere though, you're going to have unhappy people doing unhappy things...
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Old 01-28-2010, 07:11 PM   #6
 
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I'm confuzzled. It's not here on the 2 boards, is it? if it's on the non hair discussion then I guess I know what you are talking about, not the exact thing though. some of the folk over there can be 'hard azz'es'. I wonder if that's how they are IRL or just a cover of someone they'd like to be
ETA: oh and to answer your question. I'm a sensitive soul
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The style of disagreement, dissension, and dialogue has much with to do with how one is perceived here.
+1. Some topics of discussion are sensitive and people do take them personally. This is a decidedly majority female, feminist board (the whole of nc.com). If you expect to have a decent debate about an issue you must approach it with an open mind and a fair amount of tact. This is just my observation from the non-hair and politics boards. I lurk there a lot.

Ok after reading a few pages of the thread, I'm a plus 1.
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Old 01-28-2010, 08:33 PM   #9
 
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[quote=Kitschy;1240535]I think I did at first. I've come to realize that people have differences of opinion and many people disagree with me, just as I disagree with them.

There are times when this site reminds me of "Mean Girls."[/quote]

Yup, but that is the nature of a message board.
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Old 01-28-2010, 08:48 PM   #10
 
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What am I missing?

Guys clue me in??

What thread???

I've seen plenty of stuff on many threads...which one are we talking about here?
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What am I missing?

Guys clue me in??

What thread???

I've seen plenty of stuff on many threads...which one are we talking about here?
abortion.
NOW, tell me more of the products that are fraud lol
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Heh, see, I just stay on the hair and 2 boards, because I already have my opinions on things, and so do other adult women. Nothing I say will change their minds, and nothing they say will change mine.

Plus, I *do* take things personally, because my political beliefs are near and dear to my heart. I have no problem discussing things IRL, but I believe that an internet forum makes it far too easy for people to deny the humanity of others and treat people with a lack of respect.

I say all of that having never even lurked on the non-hair discussion board, so I have NO idea what's goin' on over there. They could all be as sweet as pie to each other. I'm just not taking the risk.
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Oh abortion.

That's always a hottie

Wavy check out the Essential Wholesale thread Goobernut started on the General Board--it has all the companies in it
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I only ever look in the Hair boards, and they seem to stay pretty gentle and on-topic.

Which, come to think of it, is REALLY amazing if the same people are flaming each other in some other section.
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I have no problem discussing things IRL, but I believe that an internet forum makes it far too easy for people to deny the humanity of others and treat people with a lack of respect.
That is so true. People often find "courage" behind a computer screen that they would never have in face to face interaction. They often misuse forums for personal agendas and I think this type of behavior is passive aggressive and cowardly. You are absolutely right that humanity and respect should be at the heart of every interaction we have with others, whether online or off.
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The internet does foster a sense of anonymity that gives people some false bravado, I agree...

That being said though, I think a LOT of the girls on here that are accused (and perhaps rightfully so) of being "mean" and aggressive with their view points are every bit as up front, blunt and aggressive in their day to day lives. I don't know them personally to be sure, but it certainly wouldn't surprise me.

Some people feel strongly about some issues. It really can be as simple as that. It's not so much that someone's taking what you say personally, as they're taking you SERIOUSLY and feel the need to explain why they feel the way they do about the opposite opinion.

(and as a side note... I kind of hate to break it to you, but threads like this after the abortion thread REALLY come across as "boo hoo, everyone hates me" type threads. Whether that's an accurate assessment or not, I can't be sure. But that's what it looks like, just so you know.)
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I came back after a year hiatus and posted about something and was eaten alive on the non-hair boards. Since then I tend not to post on topics that are hot button or project my own opinion too much. Some regulars can be nasty to newcomers because there are certain people who come on just to be nasty so they are on alert. But don't get too discouraged. There are some wonderful curlies/wavies on NC and can offer some great advice. Don't take what some others say too personally.
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Old 01-29-2010, 08:46 AM   #18
 
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Plus , we can have our own "non-hair board" fun over here. Everyone who frequents here is sweet, IMO I tend to surround my self with like minded peeps
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I am very good at taking criticism (constructive or not), and I don't get upset if people disagree with me. I like to hear other people's opinions. But I forget that not everyone is like that and sometimes I can stir things up because I have no problem letting someone know when I disagree with them. Sometimes my facebook friends get a little miffed ... I think I'm always diplomatic, but some people are soooo sensitive...
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Old 01-29-2010, 09:13 AM   #20
 
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I do lack diplomacy at times. I know this. The passive aggressive method of being a spineless jerk IRL and being an aggressive ______ OTW is just ridiculous.

At least I can say that here, IRL, or anywhere else-I have my opinions, I don't hesitate to make them known, and quite frankly, I don't care if you don't agree.

It boggles me that some people expect 'respect' and 'tolerance' for their opinion, yet, when it comes to others, they're the first to throw rocks.

Eh, whatever. At the end of the day, I am who I am and those that don't like it can go fly a kite.
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