Okay..so I guess he and I will talk tonight. It did feel very weird when he called ME female. But I don't know. I really honestly don't mean any harm when I say females. I don't go around saying.. "those females" or anything. Usually if I want to be a smartass about a group of ladies and/or girls..I'll say: HEFFAS. LOL!

But if it's a group of women and girls..I will indeed say.."Oh there were many females in the room" or something but I mean absolutely no disrespect at all. Not even thinking in those terms. I guess I just have never seen anything wrong or inappropriate about it. I guess my husband will school me tonight.

ETA: Oh and I noticed he used the term "guys". How come that's okay and females isn't ?
Originally Posted by *Marah*
First Marah! I LOVE YOUR HUSBAND!!!!!!!!!! It's like he took the words out of my mouth regarding this issue. He sounds like a very good, sweet man. And EVIDENTLY, he is in love with you

The problem with female is it can refer to ANYTHING on this planet that is of the female sex. ANYTHING. By calling women "females" you are intentionally ignoring the fact that they are humans just like you (gy--mean to be men specifically). It's usually men who have a problem with women who do this.

Guys is sex neutral. That is to say, when I call a man a guy, it is still implied that he is a human being. We don't refer to male animals as guys--only humans of the male sex.


Kuddos to your husband, but I knew he would know what's up!
Originally Posted by coilynapp
LOL.. thanks. He is an extremely nice man. But I am glad you knew that he would know what's up because I was thinking I was going to have to report back some stuff to set it off up on NC dot com. I do think I would have been extremely disappointed in him if he would have been fine with saying "females" now that I really understand the problem with it. My husband is college educated, well read, served his country for 6 years..and I would have been floored. And frankly, I feel I should have known better myself. No, the college I graduated from isn't as prestigious as his..but I'm not uneducated. I think if I would have really thought about it and what the implication of saying "females" means..I wouldn't have done it. But now that I know for sure.. I won't be repeating the mistake.

I am glad that I learned something from all this though even though we are having fun here at the same time. Very glad I didn't just brush this one off.