That doesn't sound stupid at all.
One thing I do when I straighten (which as a wavy I do occasionally but I'm modified so I just use a low poo that has cocomidapropyl betaine in it to remove cones afterwards) is still use cones. I don't think they're terrible, they have their uses, but that's the only time I use them. You're right your silicone serum probably just masked your damage.
As a stylist, I'm uber paranoid about my hair. So I totally relate.
Cosmetology Educator with sensitivities, eczema and Seborrheic Dermatitis.
Products: Free and Clear sulfate free poo and condish, Theraneem Sulfate Free Shampoo/Condish, Unscented SSCEJ, Coconut oil, Camellia oil, Argan oil
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