I have 4a hair and in the in between stage in terms of growth. I have tried Miss Jessie, Kinky Curl, Shea Moisture etc. and so far the best curl definer for me which leaves my hair curly, soft and shiny (and not sticky) is surprisingly a $4-$5 16 oz jar of Hawaiian Silky Gel Activator (the pink one). It also happens to be CG friendly (no cones). Has anyone tried this product? I put it on soaking wet hair and rake with fingers.