dresdendoll we 3 could be hair triplets!! I have same hair properties as well. Also I have being eyeing Shea Moisture shampoo. Next on list!!
3a with some 2a-2c, Medium/Low Porosity
Co-wash:deva no-poo/Vo5 kiwi
Leave-in:Shea Moisture/GVP conditioning Balm/AOHSR
Since long hair- I finger twist in big chunks, which helps till 5th day hair
Plop: Old T-shirt for 15 minutes ,diffuse