Oh my I got so many great replies! I too have thought I have protein overload. I have very thick hair, used to think I was a 3a, but seems like the last time I was here there are more hair types now??? and I'm thinking I'm 2c (due to the thickness). It's not really resistant to styling though (as described on the site). So confused! Maybe I should post a pic!
I think I do need more moisture. My hair seems to "drink" it up. I can add straight up olive oil and it just seems to soak in and not get oily (in moderation of course LOL!)
I'm going to try some of your recommendations. Sometimes I think I want the impossible...well defined curls that "hold" but are also touch-ably soft
I'm testing the waters and just haven't quite found the right combos for me.