I mentioned it once at the start of this thread, only responding later because you wished to debate it. Not sure who those people are you're talking about, nor do I care if anyone decides they want to talk about any
particular topic at length, on a talk forum.
I have curly, not wavy or straight, hair and therefore don't tend to visit that area of NC. ... And in my personal experience, it is indeed certain curlies who most often struggle with a racially-charged "good hair/ bad hair" complex. You might not be aware of this problem, but I am, and stated as much. Sorry you've inexplicably taken it personally.