Ooh, my hair hates most of those things, too, and living in TN I also experience hardcore humidity-related frizz.
I am currently playing with flaxseed gel - my hair hates sorbitol, but I'm not sure it hates all humectants, so I'm going to be adding aloe just to see. However, the plain old FSG has been working pretty well - I'm really just tweaking to see if I can improve on it - I use KCKT as my leave-in, but like you, my hair tends to prefer creams over gels, so I'm considering mixing up some of my RO with the FSG to see if that works better - I've done it when my hair is dry and it just eats it up - improves the frizz a touch, but not all of it...
Mod CG since 5/10, 2b/3a, med width/density, low/med porosity, greying since 18, color over grey since 21
Hair hates: non-keratin protein, glycerin, sorbitol, agave, sulfates, polyquats, co-washing (flaky scalp), maybe aloe?
Hair loves: fewer/more natural ingredients, moisture
Scalp wash: Selsun Blue naturals or reg when desperate
Low poo: Giovanni TTTT
RO: SN - Strawberry, ES
Style: HETT mousse, FSG if I make it, ??