I finally understand!
I finally understand why people get so excited about oils! I added quite a bit of EVOO to my LI today and, since I was going to be at home for a while, I decided to leave off on the gel. I have not left my hair down without a styling product for the last 7 years. Most of the time, that means I've never left it down.
The EVOO has calmed the frizz (except for what I've accepted as "transition frizz") and kept the curls soft but defined. I was able to play with it without worrying about touching it or messing it up. Amazing! Some parts are a little stringy but really not bad for dumping a bunch of oil on my head. This calls for more experimentation and possibly a trip to get coconut oil. I think my hair likes oils!