Thank you everyone for all the thoughtful and heartfelt responses! I think I needed to hear from people that just because we're on this website doesn't mean we have to have crazy product-laden, multi-stepped, time consuming routines. We can if we want to but we don't have to.
I just laugh sometimes when I log on and the website is called naturallycurly and all the posts on the General Discussions page are about the gazillions of products we use to achieve our "natural" hair. I am starting to lean towards the idea that natural isn't just about being curly vs. straight but also about being natural in our own unique non-drenched in product curls.
Thanks everyone! You have given me a lot to think about!