I've recently (over the past couple months) started to get really bad matted hair. Like if I pick up a tiny piece, all of my hair is picked up with it.
I detangle my hair usually every two or three days with a wide tooth comb and coconut oil. (when I detangle with conditioner in the shower it seems like twice as much hair comes out and it takes way longer.)

Anyways one day it got REALLY bad and after I finally got it out my hair looks so unbelievably damaged.

I have a phobia almost of hairdressers for a trim...

Have no clue what to do.

Ideas plz?
Mostly 3b with 3a and traces of 3c.
BSL (WL when straight)
Conditioner: Herbal Essences Hello Hydration

Style: Pantene Mousse for curls + Pantene Hair Whip
Shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie
Coconut oil applied on a nightly basis.