My ideal curls are soft and not frizzy without feeling coated. However, I'm starting to think recently that this is not possible, at least for my 3a, coarse, low porosity hair.

I currently use LA looks sport gel, which works well for cutting down on (but not eliminating) frizz. But it leaves my hair very coated feeling after I scrunch the crunch. Same for the Kinky Curly curling custard. But when I try more of a cream instead of a gel, like Miss Jessie's curly custard, it leaves my hair very frizzy.

So, my question is, do I have to choose between being frizz free and having soft hair? I want both!

And as an aside question: is there an easy way to tell which ingredients your hair will like based on your hair properties? I've been experimenting for months and months and all I know for sure at the moment is that my hair does not like shea butter.

Thank you!!