This sounds like my hair - I want to cry. I'm jealous of everyone who is like "my hair hates this or that" b/c my hair never behaves consistently enough to ever get an accurate read.
I will try focusing on just coconut for a while since I have a coconut condish that I can use as a LI maybe with the AOMM - it seems like AOMM hasn't given me any trouble, so maybe panthenol is okay but who knows??
Do most get dry by night or get second-day hair? I don't even really know what to expect from my hair - I just know it should get so tangled.