Kathymack, I value your advice, so I am going to go off-topic here and ask if you seal your hair, and if so, how?

I also wanted to tell you that I have been thinking about all your suggestions in regard to hold, so as well as doing a yogurt honey protein treatment that Spiral suggested, I will also look into a good trim (my hair is past BSL, nearly to waist when stretched) because even if my hair hates layers, it can still use a trim. I am going to get my hair properly analysed too, as you suggested thanks for all your help!
Finer, mixed with coarser strands, low-porosity, wavy curly whirly hair...3A, 2C hair. Medium thickness, medium elasticity.
S-shaped hair with corkscrew ends. My hair is even more confused than me ;p
My hair officially hates protein Once a month is enough!
Currently a fan of TiGi products, (rock on, TiGi Curlesque styling creme!) but that will soon change - I am a self-avowed product junkie! Yay!
BIG fan of supersoaker method - thanks Rudeechick!