Have you tried Kinky Curly Knot Today leave in? I hear it's one of the best detanglers. You can apply it to your hair before you go to sleep. Maybe it will help.
At hip length, going for mid-thigh!
M MP HE HD (med text, med por, high elast, high dens)
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Lo-poo: Nature's Gate CR
RO: TBS Rainforest Moisture, etc
LI: Elvive volume collagen, KCKT
Seal: Grapeseed oil
Gel: Kiss My Face
PT: EO Keratin co
Hair growth stim.: JBCO+EVCO
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