I believe the thread is not about name calling. It is a discussion of whether a texturizer or "softener" is the same as a relaxer. The answer is YES. Check the ingredients yourself if you don't believe the chemists who posted here. So you relaxed your and your child's hair only you that product is not left on long enough to become straight. If you like your hair better then I'm happy for you although IMO such chemicals should not be used on children under 12. I also have major shrinkage but have learned to reduce it. No chemicals needed. but that I accept and respect that everyone has different opinions. Good luck