I'm one of those people who prefers the comfortable aspects of the relationship
I don't like the beginning stuff, I am so much happier once the lusty beginnings wear off and I realize how much I like and love who the person is and when I can express myself freely.
The beginning is exciting but I get so much more in every other sense once it's over.
I just remember having a shift in my awareness, I knew I was I love when I experienced how much bigger my understanding of loss was. With my love grew my ability to feel grief. I did just "know" when I was in love. It was such a different feeling.