To expand on Eilonwy's first post, you can have a character who prefers all the things you listed without hating high heels and other things considered feminine. Or she can have a reason why she hates them that isn't that boyish things are better.
The thing is that there are too many female characters that fall into the super-girly, but kicks ass group and also too many that hate all things "girly". Characters who simply fall somewhere in between are rarer.